Thursday, February 23, 2017

23 Ogos 2015 - Tarikh yang akan diingat sampai bila-bila kerana itulah tarikh aku membuat keputusan untuk berhijrah ke bumi Kuching, tanpa pengetahuan sesiapa pun termasuk keluarga aku sendiri. Bukan sebab ingin membelakangkan mereka, tapi aku sendiri kurang pasti berapa lama aku akan berada di sini. Hanya selepas beberapa minggu baru aku memberitahu mereka.

Terlalu banyak sebab untuk aku meninggalkan bumi Tanah Melayu; terutamanya Lembah Klang. Desakan kehidupan yang semakin menekan aku satu-persatu adalah punca utamanya. Aku dapati KL bukan lagi tempat yang sesuai untuk aku.

Jenayah, ekonomi, perkauman, cinta dan banyak lagi.

Sesuatu harus dilakukan atau aku akan terus hanyut; dua pilihan.

Dalam Islam telah diajarkan agar kita berkelana - untuk menimba pengalaman dan mencari rezeki.

Begitu juga naluri Bangsa Jawa aku juga memainkan peranan untuk aku merantau - sesuai dengan kuatnya Bangsa Jawa ini yang suka berkelana sejak dulu.

Mungkin juga secara tidak langsung aku perolehi dari kesan bermain ragbi; yang telah diajarkan bagaimana untuk berundur seketika bagi mencari jalan dan taktik baru untuk mencapai ke garisan try lawan - objektif.

Dan hari ini, 23 Februari 2017; genap 1 tahun 6 bulan aku di sini. Alhamdulillah; aku merasa tenang. Kedamaian itu ada di sini.

Kenapa Kuching?

Aku jatuh cinta dengan Kuching pertama kali sampai di sini dulu untuk tugasan luar ketika itu.

Cuacanya sendu - tidak terlalu panas. Mungkin faktor geografi Kuching itu sendiri yang dikelilingi hutan dan gunung-ganang, banyak sungai dan berhampiran pantai serta kerap hujan.

Aku suka pantai.
Kuching berhampiran dengan banyak pantai.
Aku rasa luas pandangan bila duduk di pantai.
Tenang.

Sungai.
Kuching punya rangkaian sungai yang banyak dan berselirat.
Niat aku satu masa nanti untuk mempunyai sebuah bot sendiri untuk teroka rangkaian sungai-sungai di sini.

Di sini tiada rasa benci membenci antara satu kaum dengan kaum yang lain. Mereka hidup aman damai tanpa ada rasa sengketa. Tiada rasa kau Cina, duduk meja sana. Kau Melayu, duduk kedai lain. Kau Dayak, jangan masuk sini.

Itu semua boleh terjadi di bumi Malaya kini. Aku tidak tahu kenapa. Tapi tidak di sini dan aku harap keadaan ini akan berkekalan hingga bila-bila. Mungkin juga sikap pemimpin-pemimpin di sini yang tidak suka membangkitkan isu perkauman ketika berkempen politik. 

Ya, aku rasa politik punca semuanya. Politikus yang berkepentingan peribadi.

1 tahun 6 bulan dan aku masih punya banyak sebab untuk terus mencintai Kuching.

Thursday, October 29, 2015

8 bulan di sini.
Hijrah untuk merubah.
Masih jauh lagi.

Wednesday, July 22, 2015


They say love can be sweeter the second time around. Could they possibly have it right? It falls to reason that it just may, because even though you may possibly have been hurt immeasurably in your first relationship, that also means that you have learnt things the hard way. And it is only when we experience trying times that we fully appreciate the wealth of knowledge that such circumstances bring.
So even if your first relationship was a cacophony of drama as bad as the Kardashians, you can now say that you have at least, if nothing else, gained an understanding of how to eschew said drama, and steer clear of all sources of it.
Whether your relationship ended on a bitter note or with an entente cordiale the likes of which would put France to shame, you would now have learnt how to approach simple matters pertaining to courtship. So, here are 10 reasons why your first relationship will not only provide you with insight, but also enable your second relationship to surpass the first.
10. Mistakes taught you the lesson they ought to
Mistakes are instructive. Sure, they can feel painful and frustrating, but we can all say without a shadow of a doubt, that mistakes help us grow as a person. For instance, if you were anxiously attached to your partner in your first relationship, you obviously know what not to do now. It is essential to remember that your mistakes do not define you. They only pave the way for a better relationship.
9. You have acquired great personal growth
If your first serious relationship took place when you were in leading strings (you may take that to mean high school) and the second during your wise university years, you need not be told of the personal growth that you would have undergone between this period. But this is still pertinent regardless of your age, because having faced with all the things you don’t want, you now have a clearer idea of what you do want. And knowing who you are and what you want is the first step towards acquiring it.
8. You let the little things go
Oftentimes, in our first experience of a relationship, we either tend to make a mountain of a mole with regards to arguments, or simply abandon hope and succumb to the quiet weight of a seemingly conflict-riddled relationship. When in fact, what we truly ought to be doing is refusing to capitulate and endeavouring to realise the significance of letting the little things go.
7. You’re emotionally balanced
Sure, we have all been forced to contend with that familiar pang of heartache, and been through an experience or two that exemplifies it, but all of that has now made us into an emotionally mature and well rounded individual. Being in a mature adult relationship means that you understand that there are certain things over which you yield no control and thus cannot change, and are therefore, capable of fully accepting said things. For instance, if you know your partner’s past upsets you, then you don’t question them about it. And if you do, then you accept the answer they give you.
6. You’re more pragmatic
After you have weathered the storm and endured the loss of a relationship, you are more realistic and better acquainted with the norms and rules that govern a relationship. This also means that you are privy to the fact that love is not without charge; you have to pay your way by giving a part of yourself every day.
5. The sex is infinitely better
Science has spoken. According to research, women tend to have a better capacity for multiple orgasms with age. As for men? They tend to be less self conscious in bed with experience. So, there really is no getting away from this fact; sex only grows to be finer with time and experience.
4. You know the importance of communication
Our need to communicate with another human being is inescapable. And to be able to articulate our needs and desires is crucial to any relationship. In your first relationship, you may not be recognisant of the craft or importance of good communication with our partner. Discussions pertaining to how the day was spent are not the only things that a good conversation make. According to a research, being able scratch beneath the surface and have in depth conversations makes a couple feel more connected and stimulates the same brain signals as sex.
3. You know honesty is not overrated
Your first time around, you may let your partner get away with concealing aspects of his/her life. You may turn the other cheek while he/she decides to be dishonest with you, whether it is the little things or large ones. But as you advance into your relationships, you learn the anguish and misery that such acts bring. And your second time around, you are determined not to settle for a deceitful partner and relationship.
2. You grasp the significance of commitment
This works in close association with maturity. If an individual is invested in a relationship, he/she will show markedly distinct signs of it. In your first relationship, you or your partner or both may not be fully aware of the meaning of being committed to a relationship. It doesn’t only mean calling when you say you will, or showing up on time to a date; but also seeing your future with each other, and setting up goals to reach that future.
1. You know your worth
You have seen the world, you have come to terms with yourself, and your standards have now been raised. And if, in the past, you settled for less than you deserved, you don’t any longer, because you now know your worth.
source : http://www.relrules.com/10-reasons-your-second-serious-relationship-is-better-than-your-first/

Tuesday, November 19, 2013


Assalamualaikum dan salam sejahtera,

Agak poyo sedikit posting saya yang lepas yang dibuat dalam bahasa omputeh. Terpaksa buat sebab nak memenuhi requirement google adsense. hahaha.  

Ok. Berbalik pada cerita asal, tentang Teknik Forex Sebenar. Bagi sesiapa yang tak tau apa itu Forex, mungkin akan menganggap forex ni adalah skim cepat kaya atau yang macam MLM nak kena cari-cari orang. Maaf, anda silap kerana forex bukanlah skim cepat kaya, bukan Multi-Level Marketing dan bukan skim kena cari-cari orang

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Sunday, November 17, 2013


When England face the All Blacks on Saturday, they will line up against statistically the most successful sporting team in human history. New Zealand's win-rate over the last 100 years is over 75 per cent. It's a phenomenal record, and an achievement matched by no other elite team, in any code.


But back in 2004, something was wrong. The 2003 World Cup had gone badly, and by the start of the following year senior All Blacks were threatening to leave. Discipline was drunk and disorderly, and to make things worse, the All Blacks were losing.

In response, a new management team under Graham Henry began to rebuild the world's most successful sporting team from the inside out. They wanted a fresh culture that placed emphasis on individual character and personal leadership. Their mantra? 'Better People Make Better All Blacks'. The result? An incredible win-rate of just over 86pc, and a Rugby World Cup.

In early 2010, I had the privilege of going deep inside the All Blacks camp for five weeks alongside photojournalist Nick Danziger. It was a unique opportunity to study the way the best in the world stay on top of their game.

Here are five lessons in leadership I learnt.

1. Sweep the sheds

Before leaving the dressing room at the end of the game, some of the most famous names in world rugby – including Richie McCaw, Dan Carter and Mils Muliana – stop and tidy up after themselves. They literally and figuratively 'sweep the sheds'.


Former All Black Andrew Mehrtens describes it as an example of personal humility, a cardinal All Blacks value.

Though it might seem strange for a team of imperious dominance, humility is core to their culture. The All Blacks believe that it's impossible to achieve stratospheric success without having your feet planted firmly on the ground.



2. Follow the spearhead


In Maori, whanau means 'extended family'. It's symbolised by the spearhead.

Though a spearhead has three tips, to be effective all of its force must move in one direction. Hence the All Blacks mantra 'No D*******s', a term shamelessly stolen from the Sydney Swans.

The All Blacks select on character as well as talent, which means some of New Zealand's most promising players never pull on the black jersey – considered d*******s, their inclusion would be detrimental to the whanau.


3. Champions do extra


Former All Black Brad Thorn's mantra, 'Champions Do Extra', helped him become one of the single most successful players in rugby history.

The philosophy simply means finding incremental ways to do more – in the gym, on the field, or for the team. It is much like the philosophy of marginal gains used by Team Sky.

A focus on continual improvement, the creation of a continual learning environment, and a willingness to spill blood for the jersey was at the core of Graham Henry's All Black culture.

4. Keep a blue head


Following their arguably premature exit at the 2003 World Cup, the All Blacks worked with forensic psychiatrist Ceri Evans to understand how the brain works under pressure. They wanted to overcome their habit of choking.

'Red Head' is an unresourceful state in which you are off task, panicked and ineffective. 'Blue Head', on the other hand, is an optimal state in which you are on task and performing to your best ability.

The All Blacks use triggers to switch from Red to Blue. Richie McCaw stamps his feet, literally grounding himself, while Kieran Read stares at the farthest point of the stadium, searching for the bigger picture.

Using these triggers, the players aim to achieve clarity and accuracy, so they can perform under pressure.


5. Leave the jersey in a better place


The All Blacks have long had a saying: ‘leave the jersey in a better place’. Their task is to represent all those who have come before them – from George Nepia to Colin Meads, Michael Jones to Jonah Lomu, and all those who follow suit. An All Black is, by definition, a role model to schoolchildren across New Zealand.

Understanding this responsibility creates a compelling sense of higher purpose. It's a good lesson for us all: if we play a bigger game, we play a more effective game.

Better people make better All Blacks – but they also make better doctors and lawyers, bankers and businessmen, fathers, brothers, and friends.

by James Kerr






Thursday, November 14, 2013

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Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Somehow the thought of any real change causes a tightening in your chest, a lump in your throat and a burn in your stomach. Why? Change evokes fear automatically as a human response.

Since the beginning of time, mankind has grappled with change. We all know stories or have loved ones or friends who are so rigid in their thinking that even the most minor deviation from their daily routine sends them into a tailspin.

But change is good! Not for the sake of change, but because it shakes things up, allows you to broaden your scope and opens your mind to possibilities that were never apparent.


Resisting change causes a great deal of stress and can be extremely uncomfortable. But continuing to resist inevitable or positive change immobilizes people and their ability to perform their work at a high level. Some very smart and seemingly successful people have failed for this reason alone.

What can we do? Try this. Every time someone presents you with an opportunity for change or a new set of circumstances hits you square in the face and does not give you a choice, stop, relax and do not resist. Simply be with the news for a while. After all, the change is not usually going to occur instantaneously. I call it the 24 hour rule. See how you feel 24 hours later. By then you have had time to digest the information, visualize what aspects of your daily routine and life it will affect and then purposely look for ways that it could actually be a good thing. For with every change, even when it is perceived as bad, there is always something there that will propel you positively forward if you will let it.


Turn your fear of change into your love of improvement!

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Most people want to change something about themselves. In this country we have an optimistic tradition about "getting somewhere" and "reaching higher," which includes getting somewhere with the self. Change and optimism go together. It seems, in the current economic downturn, that optimism is lagging, but there's still a strong motivation to succeed, which means overcoming obstacles. Many, if not most of the obstacles that people face in their rise to success, are personal. Which is why almost everyone wants to change a habit, a personality trait, a chronic state of anxiety, and so on.
The problem with personal change is that if you attack your old habits directly, the task is quite difficult. The mind that desires change confronts the mind that is bound by old conditioning. The result is inner conflict, with one side pushing and the other side resisting. Countless people feel trapped inside this war, whether their goal is to stop overeating, manage their anger, become more assertive, or stop being fearful - the desire to change isn't enough, and keeping up the motivation to change soon wears out.
The secret to personal change is to stop fighting against yourself. If the inner war was winnable, you'd have won it long ago. I'm not advising you to give up. Giving up takes you out of the war zone, but that's not enough to create positive change. Your brain is still trained to follow the pathways set down by habit and conditioning. This is where the secret to personal change comes in. Change occurs by giving the brain new pathways. Without these new pathways, your default reactions will remain in place. Brain wiring isn't the same as house wiring. Even if you are "wired" to overeat or to lose your temper quickly, these reactions can be over-ridden.
The process has a few steps that need to be repeated anytime you find yourself having a familiar, undesirable reaction.
1. Notice what you're about to do.
2. Pause, close your eyes and wait until the surge of your reaction quiets down.
3. Ask yourself if you really need to react this way.
What you're doing with these steps is bringing in the higher brain, which is the only part that can decide to change and then carry out the change. The part that keeps you from changing is emotional and impulsive - in other words the lower brain. The lower brain has quicker access than the higher brain, which is why you jump when you hear a car backfire and only seconds later make the decision that you are not in danger. Survival impulses like hunger, aggression, and fight-or-flight aren't stronger than reason; they are just faster and thoughtless.
By pausing and waiting for the surge to pass, you give yourself time to do the things that the higher brain is expert at: considering, reflecting, weighing options, etc. But here comes the tricky part. If you have given in to impulse and habit many times, ignoring the choices available to your higher brain, grooves of habit become the path of least resistance. In a word, the more often the lower brain is favoured, the weaker your decision-making becomes. That’s why over-eaters feel helpless to change their eating habit. They aren't hungrier than other people; they've weakened their other choices.
So your campaign, whatever kind of change you are aiming for, is to take back your power to choose. You must do this over and over. Only repetition can rebalance your brain, allowing stronger pathways to be built and older grooves to wear out. Besides the three steps given above, the following are also very useful.
- Write down how you feel.
- Make a note whenever you make a better choice.
- Appreciate your good choices and celebrate the fact that you made them.
These additional steps reinforce higher-brain awareness. They reconnect you to your emotional brain and teach it to see that it doesn't feel good just to overeat, lose your temper, or act aggressive. It feels just as good to make a better choice. Celebration, which many people leave out, reinforces the positive emotional side of making better choices. When you put all these steps together, they make change possible, not by fighting against yourself, but by adding the fulfilment of knowing that you are the author of your own life story and can turn the plot in any direction you want.
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