How The Gift Of Giving Can Bring You Closer To Success

The gift of giving is perhaps one of the most important things you can do to get you closer to achieving success. It's definitely important to focus your efforts on getting to your goal, but the one problem with goal setting is that you tend to have a "Me" focused attitude. You should focus on the gift of giving, and find a way where you can add value to someone else. Zig Ziglar said it best: "You can have everything you want in life if you will just help enough other people get what they want."

If you want more courage, use the gift of giving and find a way to encourage someone else. If you want confidence, instill confidence in someone who needs it more. My mentor told me a story about how one of his employees developed self-confidence by simply instilling confidence in someone else. In this article, let's call him Amin. When my mentor conducted a performance review, he discovered that Amin lacked the self-confidence to perform his role to the highest standards. He knew that Amin had a great deal of potential, so he decided to help him build his self-esteem and self-confidence.

My mentor knew that pep talks and positive reinforcement were not enough for Amin to boost his self-confidence. He knew that Amin would need to help someone else gain confidence in himself before he could develop his own confidence. So he encouraged Amin to spend some time with someone who lacked self-confidence. Amin knew a friend who lacked confidence. Amin talked to him and found out that he enjoyed rugby, but did not excel in it, so he didn't feel confident in himself. Amin excelled at rugby, so he decided to coach his friend as his gift of giving. After spending time coaching him, Amin noticed that his self-confidence grow dramatically. When Amin saw how his friend grew in confidence right before his eyes, his own self-confidence started to grow because he knew the value he was contributing to his friend's life. Once his self-esteem and self-confidence expanded, my mentor mentioned that his performance increased dramatically.

While it's important to stay focused on your goals and doing everything you can in your power to achieve them, take a step back once in a while and think about what area in your life you would like to develop. Then find someone who needs it more, and helps that person develop in that area. Through that gift of giving, you will see yourself making improvements in that area without even thinking about. Just remember what Zig Ziglar said about helping enough people get what they want first, and then you can have anything you want.

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Perjalanan

23 Ogos 2015 - Tarikh yang akan diingat sampai bila-bila kerana itulah tarikh aku membuat keputusan untuk berhijrah ke bumi Kuching, tanpa pengetahuan sesiapa pun termasuk keluarga aku sendiri. Bukan sebab ingin membelakangkan mereka, tapi aku sendiri kurang pasti berapa lama aku akan berada di sini. Hanya selepas beberapa minggu baru aku memberitahu mereka.

Terlalu banyak sebab untuk aku meninggalkan bumi Tanah Melayu; terutamanya Lembah Klang. Desakan kehidupan yang semakin menekan aku satu-persatu adalah punca utamanya. Aku dapati KL bukan lagi tempat yang sesuai untuk aku.

Jenayah, ekonomi, perkauman, cinta dan banyak lagi.

Sesuatu harus dilakukan atau aku akan terus hanyut; dua pilihan.

Dalam Islam telah diajarkan agar kita berkelana - untuk menimba pengalaman dan mencari rezeki.

Begitu juga naluri Bangsa Jawa aku juga memainkan peranan untuk aku merantau - sesuai dengan kuatnya Bangsa Jawa ini yang suka berkelana sejak dulu.

Mungkin juga secara tidak langsung aku perolehi dari kesan bermain ragbi; yang telah diajarkan bagaimana untuk berundur seketika bagi mencari jalan dan taktik baru untuk mencapai ke garisan try lawan - objektif.

Dan hari ini, 23 Februari 2017; genap 1 tahun 6 bulan aku di sini. Alhamdulillah; aku merasa tenang. Kedamaian itu ada di sini.

Kenapa Kuching?

Aku jatuh cinta dengan Kuching pertama kali sampai di sini dulu untuk tugasan luar ketika itu.

Cuacanya sendu - tidak terlalu panas. Mungkin faktor geografi Kuching itu sendiri yang dikelilingi hutan dan gunung-ganang, banyak sungai dan berhampiran pantai serta kerap hujan.

Aku suka pantai.

Kuching berhampiran dengan banyak pantai.

Aku rasa luas pandangan bila duduk di pantai.

Tenang.

Sungai.

Kuching punya rangkaian sungai yang banyak dan berselirat.

Niat aku satu masa nanti untuk mempunyai sebuah bot sendiri untuk teroka rangkaian sungai-sungai di sini.

Di sini tiada rasa benci membenci antara satu kaum dengan kaum yang lain. Mereka hidup aman damai tanpa ada rasa sengketa. Tiada rasa kau Cina, duduk meja sana. Kau Melayu, duduk kedai lain. Kau Dayak, jangan masuk sini.

Itu semua boleh terjadi di bumi Malaya kini. Aku tidak tahu kenapa. Tapi tidak di sini dan aku harap keadaan ini akan berkekalan hingga bila-bila. Mungkin juga sikap pemimpin-pemimpin di sini yang tidak suka membangkitkan isu perkauman ketika berkempen politik. 

Ya, aku rasa politik punca semuanya. Politikus yang berkepentingan peribadi.

1 tahun 6 bulan dan aku masih punya banyak sebab untuk terus mencintai Kuching.