They say love can be sweeter
the second time around. Could they possibly have it right? It falls to reason
that it just may, because even though you may possibly have been hurt
immeasurably in your first relationship, that also means that you have learnt things
the hard way. And it is only when we experience trying times that we fully
appreciate the wealth of knowledge that such circumstances bring.
So even if your first
relationship was a cacophony of drama as bad as the Kardashians, you can now
say that you have at least, if nothing else, gained an understanding of how to
eschew said drama, and steer clear of all sources of it.
Whether your
relationship ended on a bitter note or with an entente cordiale the likes of
which would put France to shame, you would now have learnt how to approach
simple matters pertaining to courtship. So, here are 10 reasons why your first
relationship will not only provide you with insight, but also enable your
second relationship to surpass the first.
10. Mistakes
taught you the lesson they ought to
Mistakes
are instructive. Sure, they can feel painful and frustrating, but we can all
say without a shadow of a doubt, that mistakes help us grow as a person. For
instance, if you were anxiously attached to your partner in your first
relationship, you obviously know what not to do now. It is essential to
remember that your mistakes do not define you. They only pave the way for a
better relationship.
9. You have
acquired great personal growth
If
your first serious relationship took place when you were in leading strings
(you may take that to mean high school) and the second during your wise
university years, you need not be told of the personal growth that you would
have undergone between this period. But this is still pertinent regardless of
your age, because having faced with all the things you don’t want, you now have
a clearer idea of what you do want. And knowing who you are and what you want
is the first step towards acquiring it.
8. You let the
little things go
Oftentimes,
in our first experience of a relationship, we either tend to make a mountain of
a mole with regards to arguments, or simply abandon hope and succumb to the
quiet weight of a seemingly conflict-riddled relationship. When in fact, what
we truly ought to be doing is refusing to capitulate and endeavouring to
realise the significance of letting the little things go.
7. You’re
emotionally balanced
Sure,
we have all been forced to contend with that familiar pang of heartache, and
been through an experience or two that exemplifies it, but all of that has now
made us into an emotionally mature and well rounded individual. Being in a
mature adult relationship means that you understand that there are certain
things over which you yield no control and thus cannot change, and are
therefore, capable of fully accepting said things. For instance, if you know
your partner’s past upsets you, then you don’t question them about it. And if
you do, then you accept the answer they give you.
6. You’re more
pragmatic
After
you have weathered the storm and endured the loss of a relationship, you are
more realistic and better acquainted with the norms and rules that govern a
relationship. This also means that you are privy to the fact that love is not
without charge; you have to pay your way by giving a part of yourself every
day.
5. The sex is
infinitely better
Science
has spoken. According to research, women tend to have a better capacity for
multiple orgasms with age. As for men? They tend to be less self conscious in
bed with experience. So, there really is no getting away from this fact; sex
only grows to be finer with time and experience.
4. You know the
importance of communication
Our
need to communicate with another human being is inescapable. And to be able to
articulate our needs and desires is crucial to any relationship. In your first
relationship, you may not be recognisant of the craft or importance of good
communication with our partner. Discussions pertaining to how the day was spent
are not the only things that a good conversation make. According to a research,
being able scratch beneath the surface and have in depth conversations makes a
couple feel more connected and stimulates the same brain signals as sex.
3. You know
honesty is not overrated
Your
first time around, you may let your partner get away with concealing aspects of
his/her life. You may turn the other cheek while he/she decides to be dishonest
with you, whether it is the little things or large ones. But as you advance
into your relationships, you learn the anguish and misery that such acts bring.
And your second time around, you are determined not to settle for a deceitful
partner and relationship.
2. You grasp the
significance of commitment
This
works in close association with maturity. If an individual is invested in a
relationship, he/she will show markedly distinct signs of it. In your first
relationship, you or your partner or both may not be fully aware of the meaning
of being committed to a relationship. It doesn’t only mean calling when you say
you will, or showing up on time to a date; but also seeing your future with
each other, and setting up goals to reach that future.
1. You know your
worth
You
have seen the world, you have come to terms with yourself, and your standards
have now been raised. And if, in the past, you settled for less than you
deserved, you don’t any longer, because you now know your worth.
source : http://www.relrules.com/10-reasons-your-second-serious-relationship-is-better-than-your-first/
