How The Gift Of Giving Can Bring You Closer To Success

The gift of giving is perhaps one of the most important things you can do to get you closer to achieving success. It's definitely important to focus your efforts on getting to your goal, but the one problem with goal setting is that you tend to have a "Me" focused attitude. You should focus on the gift of giving, and find a way where you can add value to someone else. Zig Ziglar said it best: "You can have everything you want in life if you will just help enough other people get what they want."

If you want more courage, use the gift of giving and find a way to encourage someone else. If you want confidence, instill confidence in someone who needs it more. My mentor told me a story about how one of his employees developed self-confidence by simply instilling confidence in someone else. In this article, let's call him Amin. When my mentor conducted a performance review, he discovered that Amin lacked the self-confidence to perform his role to the highest standards. He knew that Amin had a great deal of potential, so he decided to help him build his self-esteem and self-confidence.

My mentor knew that pep talks and positive reinforcement were not enough for Amin to boost his self-confidence. He knew that Amin would need to help someone else gain confidence in himself before he could develop his own confidence. So he encouraged Amin to spend some time with someone who lacked self-confidence. Amin knew a friend who lacked confidence. Amin talked to him and found out that he enjoyed rugby, but did not excel in it, so he didn't feel confident in himself. Amin excelled at rugby, so he decided to coach his friend as his gift of giving. After spending time coaching him, Amin noticed that his self-confidence grow dramatically. When Amin saw how his friend grew in confidence right before his eyes, his own self-confidence started to grow because he knew the value he was contributing to his friend's life. Once his self-esteem and self-confidence expanded, my mentor mentioned that his performance increased dramatically.

While it's important to stay focused on your goals and doing everything you can in your power to achieve them, take a step back once in a while and think about what area in your life you would like to develop. Then find someone who needs it more, and helps that person develop in that area. Through that gift of giving, you will see yourself making improvements in that area without even thinking about. Just remember what Zig Ziglar said about helping enough people get what they want first, and then you can have anything you want.

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The All Blacks Guide To Being Successful (Off The Field)

When England face the All Blacks on Saturday, they will line up against statistically the most successful sporting team in human history. New Zealand's win-rate over the last 100 years is over 75 per cent. It's a phenomenal record, and an achievement matched by no other elite team, in any code.

But back in 2004, something was wrong. The 2003 World Cup had gone badly, and by the start of the following year senior All Blacks were threatening to leave. Discipline was drunk and disorderly, and to make things worse, the All Blacks were losing.

In response, a new management team under Graham Henry began to rebuild the world's most successful sporting team from the inside out. They wanted a fresh culture that placed emphasis on individual character and personal leadership. Their mantra? 'Better People Make Better All Blacks'. The result? An incredible win-rate of just over 86pc, and a Rugby World Cup.

In early 2010, I had the privilege of going deep inside the All Blacks camp for five weeks alongside photojournalist Nick Danziger. It was a unique opportunity to study the way the best in the world stay on top of their game.

Here are five lessons in leadership I learnt.

1. Sweep the sheds

Before leaving the dressing room at the end of the game, some of the most famous names in world rugby – including Richie McCaw, Dan Carter and Mils Muliana – stop and tidy up after themselves. They literally and figuratively 'sweep the sheds'.

Former All Black Andrew Mehrtens describes it as an example of personal humility, a cardinal All Blacks value.

Though it might seem strange for a team of imperious dominance, humility is core to their culture. The All Blacks believe that it's impossible to achieve stratospheric success without having your feet planted firmly on the ground.

2. Follow the spearhead

In Maori, whanau means 'extended family'. It's symbolised by the spearhead.

Though a spearhead has three tips, to be effective all of its force must move in one direction. Hence the All Blacks mantra 'No D*******s', a term shamelessly stolen from the Sydney Swans.

The All Blacks select on character as well as talent, which means some of New Zealand's most promising players never pull on the black jersey – considered d*******s, their inclusion would be detrimental to the whanau.

3. Champions do extra

Former All Black Brad Thorn's mantra, 'Champions Do Extra', helped him become one of the single most successful players in rugby history.

The philosophy simply means finding incremental ways to do more – in the gym, on the field, or for the team. It is much like the philosophy of marginal gains used by Team Sky.

A focus on continual improvement, the creation of a continual learning environment, and a willingness to spill blood for the jersey was at the core of Graham Henry's All Black culture.

4. Keep a blue head

Following their arguably premature exit at the 2003 World Cup, the All Blacks worked with forensic psychiatrist Ceri Evans to understand how the brain works under pressure. They wanted to overcome their habit of choking.

'Red Head' is an unresourceful state in which you are off task, panicked and ineffective. 'Blue Head', on the other hand, is an optimal state in which you are on task and performing to your best ability.

The All Blacks use triggers to switch from Red to Blue. Richie McCaw stamps his feet, literally grounding himself, while Kieran Read stares at the farthest point of the stadium, searching for the bigger picture.

Using these triggers, the players aim to achieve clarity and accuracy, so they can perform under pressure.

5. Leave the jersey in a better place

The All Blacks have long had a saying: ‘leave the jersey in a better place’. Their task is to represent all those who have come before them – from George Nepia to Colin Meads, Michael Jones to Jonah Lomu, and all those who follow suit. An All Black is, by definition, a role model to schoolchildren across New Zealand.

Understanding this responsibility creates a compelling sense of higher purpose. It's a good lesson for us all: if we play a bigger game, we play a more effective game.

Better people make better All Blacks – but they also make better doctors and lawyers, bankers and businessmen, fathers, brothers, and friends.

by James Kerr

source : http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/active/10427619/The-All-Blacks-guide-to-being-successful-off-the-field.html

Change Is Good

Somehow the thought of any real change causes a tightening in your chest, a lump in your throat and a burn in your stomach. Why? Change evokes fear automatically as a human response.

Since the beginning of time, mankind has grappled with change. We all know stories or have loved ones or friends who are so rigid in their thinking that even the most minor deviation from their daily routine sends them into a tailspin.

But change is good! Not for the sake of change, but because it shakes things up, allows you to broaden your scope and opens your mind to possibilities that were never apparent.

Resisting change causes a great deal of stress and can be extremely uncomfortable. But continuing to resist inevitable or positive change immobilizes people and their ability to perform their work at a high level. Some very smart and seemingly successful people have failed for this reason alone.

What can we do? Try this. Every time someone presents you with an opportunity for change or a new set of circumstances hits you square in the face and does not give you a choice, stop, relax and do not resist. Simply be with the news for a while. After all, the change is not usually going to occur instantaneously. I call it the 24 hour rule. See how you feel 24 hours later. By then you have had time to digest the information, visualize what aspects of your daily routine and life it will affect and then purposely look for ways that it could actually be a good thing. For with every change, even when it is perceived as bad, there is always something there that will propel you positively forward if you will let it.

Turn your fear of change into your love of improvement!

*source - http://www.getmotivation.com

The Secret to Personal Change

Most people want to change something about themselves. In this country we have an optimistic tradition about "getting somewhere" and "reaching higher," which includes getting somewhere with the self. Change and optimism go together. It seems, in the current economic downturn, that optimism is lagging, but there's still a strong motivation to succeed, which means overcoming obstacles. Many, if not most of the obstacles that people face in their rise to success, are personal. Which is why almost everyone wants to change a habit, a personality trait, a chronic state of anxiety, and so on.

The problem with personal change is that if you attack your old habits directly, the task is quite difficult. The mind that desires change confronts the mind that is bound by old conditioning. The result is inner conflict, with one side pushing and the other side resisting. Countless people feel trapped inside this war, whether their goal is to stop overeating, manage their anger, become more assertive, or stop being fearful - the desire to change isn't enough, and keeping up the motivation to change soon wears out.

The secret to personal change is to stop fighting against yourself. If the inner war was winnable, you'd have won it long ago. I'm not advising you to give up. Giving up takes you out of the war zone, but that's not enough to create positive change. Your brain is still trained to follow the pathways set down by habit and conditioning. This is where the secret to personal change comes in. Change occurs by giving the brain new pathways. Without these new pathways, your default reactions will remain in place. Brain wiring isn't the same as house wiring. Even if you are "wired" to overeat or to lose your temper quickly, these reactions can be over-ridden.

The process has a few steps that need to be repeated anytime you find yourself having a familiar, undesirable reaction.

1. Notice what you're about to do.

2. Pause, close your eyes and wait until the surge of your reaction quiets down.

3. Ask yourself if you really need to react this way.

What you're doing with these steps is bringing in the higher brain, which is the only part that can decide to change and then carry out the change. The part that keeps you from changing is emotional and impulsive - in other words the lower brain. The lower brain has quicker access than the higher brain, which is why you jump when you hear a car backfire and only seconds later make the decision that you are not in danger. Survival impulses like hunger, aggression, and fight-or-flight aren't stronger than reason; they are just faster and thoughtless.

By pausing and waiting for the surge to pass, you give yourself time to do the things that the higher brain is expert at: considering, reflecting, weighing options, etc. But here comes the tricky part. If you have given in to impulse and habit many times, ignoring the choices available to your higher brain, grooves of habit become the path of least resistance. In a word, the more often the lower brain is favoured, the weaker your decision-making becomes. That’s why over-eaters feel helpless to change their eating habit. They aren't hungrier than other people; they've weakened their other choices.

So your campaign, whatever kind of change you are aiming for, is to take back your power to choose. You must do this over and over. Only repetition can rebalance your brain, allowing stronger pathways to be built and older grooves to wear out. Besides the three steps given above, the following are also very useful.

- Write down how you feel.

- Make a note whenever you make a better choice.

- Appreciate your good choices and celebrate the fact that you made them.

These additional steps reinforce higher-brain awareness. They reconnect you to your emotional brain and teach it to see that it doesn't feel good just to overeat, lose your temper, or act aggressive. It feels just as good to make a better choice. Celebration, which many people leave out, reinforces the positive emotional side of making better choices. When you put all these steps together, they make change possible, not by fighting against yourself, but by adding the fulfilment of knowing that you are the author of your own life story and can turn the plot in any direction you want.

Delaying Gratification - 5 Tips on How to Delay Gratification

One of the hardest things to do for most people is delaying their immediate gratification. We live in a society where we want everything and we want it now, without much consideration to its future impact. This attitude is learned from a young age where kids want things immediately and parents more often than not give in. However being able to delay immediate gratification has a direct impact on our success in life, and not just financial, but in all aspects of life. By now you might know that besides finance my other passion is psychology (not surprising since I studied it for 4 years) and one of my all times favourite study is the Standford Marshmallow Test. If you are not familiar with the test here is a quick summary.

"Years ago, psychologist Walter Mischel conducted an experiment on a group of four-year olds. Each child was offered a marshmallow, and was told that they could have it now, or if they could wait several minutes, they could have two. Some children grabbed the marshmallow on the spot but many of them were able to hold off. The interesting part of the study was that Mischel followed up on the children as adults and he discovered that those who didn’t eat their marshmallows that day were generally more self-motivated, successful in school and considered emotionally intelligent. On the other hand those who simply couldn’t wait generally had low self-esteem and had suffered in school, branded by both their teachers and parents as being stubborn, envious and easily frustrated"

This study has been replicated by David Walsh Check out this YouTube clip. There is a very strong link between delaying gratification and success in life, the earlier we learn this skill the better off we will be. However it is never too late to learn how to delay your immediate gratification; here are some tips that can help you along the way.

1. Make an Advance Decision and Know What You Want

Get your decision in writing. Try to be as detailed as possible about your decision as well as the expected outcome. Sometimes it can be hard to say NO to things, you have to have a clear picture of what you want in order to resist the urge.

2. Know what is Important to You- Know Your Values.

In order to be able to delay immediate gratification you need to know what is important to you, what do you value to most? Is it the satisfaction of owning a brand new car or that you own a pre-owned car debt free? Know your values.

3. Have a Plan

I don’t think that every aspect of one’s life should be planned out in detailed but in order to reach your goals, whatever they maybe, you need to have a plan. You should have a financial plan to reach your financial goals, a career plan to reach your career goals etc. If you have a plan it becomes easier to resists the urge of immediate satisfaction, you may be more conscious of your behaviour and how they fit in your plan.

4. Prioritize

Have clear priorities in life this can be financial priorities or just general priorities in life, such as school comes before entertainment, family before friends etc. Having clear priorities will go a long way in delaying gratification.

5. Reward Yourself

If you have long term goals, I highly recommend you set-up some short term goals and reward yourself for reaching them. Sometimes it can be very difficult to keep focus on long term goals if we don’t see some rewards, giving yourself small rewards can be very powerful.

Delaying gratification is not an easy task, but it is something that can be learned over time, following some of these steps will help you in the process. However do not stop at these there are tones of resources online on this topic take some time and go through some of them.

*source : http://financialhighway.com/delaying-gratification-5-tips-on-how-to-delay-gratification/

Teknik Forex Sebenar - Face to Face Tutorial

Alhamdulillah, pada 30 Mac 2013 yang lepas, telah berlangsung kelas tutorial bagi pembeli ebook Teknik Forex Sebenar yang diadakan di d'Villang Resort, Ayer Keroh, Melaka. Bersempena dengan cuti sekolah, kesempatan itu diambil untuk membawa sekali anak-anak berjalan-jalan makan angin.

Kelas tutorial yang dikelolakan sendiri oleh penulis ebook Teknik Forex Sebenar, iaitu encik Khalid Hamid telah mendapat sambutan yang hangat, sehinggakan terpaksa dibuat di dalam 2 sessi iaitu pagi dan petang. Kelas yang berlangsung selama 3 jam itu, banyak merungkaikan cara-cara untuk melihat candlestick dan membaca pergerakan market dengan lebih senang, mudah dan simple tetapi amat bermakna sekali untuk trader-trader baru seperti saya (dalam kelas ni juga ada seorang brader berumur 50-an dan juga baru berjinak-jinak dalam trading forex ini, hebat kan?).

Walaupun kelas tersebut hanya berlangsung selama 3 jam, tetapi ilmu yang didapati amat bermanfaat dan boleh saya katakan tidak rugi langsung menghadirinya. Banyak persoalan, teknik dan tips yang dikongsi bersama oleh penulis dan para peserta lain.

Inilah antara keistimewaan yang saya dapat hasil dari membeli ebook Teknik Forex Sebenar, selain dari support yang berterusan dari penulis sendiri di group facebook. Anda juga menikmati keistimewaan ini jika membeli ebook Teknik Forex Sebenar ini. Apa tunggu lagi?

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WINNING STRATEGY IN FOREX

In Currency Trading there are a multitude of strategies that can be profitable. I don’t care which strategy you use but if you don’t overlay your strategy with the 5 points below then I believe that the probability of success will be really low.

1. Always Use Stop Losses – I cannot stress this enough.  To be able to use stop losses you have to accept them as a cost of doing business.  The same way a shopkeeper has to pay for rent or electricity, the trader has to pay for Stop losses.  Usually new traders do not like to use Stop Losses because many times the price returns towards their initial entry and they end up being in the money. So in their mind, using a stop loss would only create an unnecessary red spot in their account.  But you might find yourself in a scenario where the price does not return to your entry and your account gets wiped out.

Remember, trading is a marathon and not a sprint. You have to survive for a while until you learn how to trade. And the only way to survive is by using stop losses!

2. Multi-Timeframe Analysis – You might have a favourite time frame to trade. If you don’t then you should. Choose one so you learn the ins and outs of trading within that timeframe.  But always look out on the next timeframe to make sure you are on the correct side of the trend and that you are not selling into bigger timeframe support or buying into bigger timeframe resistance. For example, I always trade on the 15 minute chart but always consult the 1H timeframe.

3. Keep it Simple but not too simple – Trading should be simple enough so that decision making is clear and not complicated but you should keep in mind that confluence is important as well. Confluence means that more than one indicators/price action characteristics support a trading decision. For example I might buy a pair if it bounces over its upward sloping trend line and also bouncing of a support level in addition to forming a rejection candle.

4.  Learn the signal frequency of your method – You have to learn your method/strategy like the palm of your hand.  I know how many signals my strategy usually generates throughout every trading session. And I know this, because I am ‘connected’ with my strategy. This means that I do not over trade.  I trade the 2-3 signals a day my strategy generates and that’s it. If I start entering into more trades than what my strategy usually generates then I know I am overtrading.   Over trading can kill an account, since every new trade brings new risk on the table. And as traders we hate risk!

5.  Concentrate on the risk and not the profit – When you equate trading to risk management that’s when you will see your account grow. Trading is all about managing your risk. So cut your losses short. Winning trades are usually winning from the get-go. Be quick to protect your account. Personally I move my SL to entry as soon as a trade goes 15 pips in my favour. That’s a method that suits my strategy. You should protect your account as well with a method that suits your strategy.

source : HotForex

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PATIENCE : IT CAN BE REWARDING

 "He that can have Patience, can have what he will"

 - Benjamin Franklin

They say Patience is a virtue seldom found in women never in men. This may or may not be true; but it fair to say that there is nobody on earth who couldn't benefit from more patience. Patience is our cheerful acceptance of life. Patience allows us to turn failure into success. Patience avoids needless worry and anxiety and in place brings peace of mind.

Benefits of Patience

Patience is necessary for Success. It is said that "all good things come to those who wait" If we wish to achieve anything of significance, we cannot expect to achieve it overnight. For example many of our great scientists have remarked how their scientific discoveries came only through patient perseverance. Einstein said Genius was 99% perspiration and only 1% inspiration. To achieve anything great in life we have to develop patience.

"If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has owed more to patient attention, than to any other talent." -- Sir Isaac Newton

Patience teaches us to value the effort and not just the success. It is a mistake to think that happiness can only be attained through certain achievements. To get the most from life, we should value the preparation and effort, as much as the success or failure that may result. Patience means we learn to develop equanimity and to not be influenced by the ups and downs of life.

Patience brings peace of mind. When we desire certain outcomes, then we will have no peace of mind. Even if one desire is filled, the nature of desire is that more will appear in its place. There is no end to human desire. Patience means that we can work without expecting a certain outcome. Patience means we will work with an attitude of detachment. It is this detachment that brings peace of mind.

"Patience is not inertia. ... Patience has the steady movement of growth and is always accompanied by peace. This peace can never be mistaken for inertia which is always accompanied by restlessness." - Sri Chinmoy (1)

Patience enables us to develop faith; this is a faith in ourselves. If we judge ourselves only by our results and success then we do not have faith in our inner self. Our real self seeks to quietly do the right thing and not worry about the result.

Patience can transform suffering into joy. Throughout life we suffer injustice and suffering, the Best healer is time and patience. Through being patient and accepting of our situation, it is quite possible for our suffering to be transformed.

"If failure has the strength to turn your life into bitterness itself, then patience has the strength to turn your life into the sweetest joy.." - Sri Chinmoy (2)

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